| MrSimons |
02-22-2016 05:06 AM |
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Posted by Areo
(Post 676568)
1. Goat is probably right that a year would be a bit extreme.
2. Nanny's aren't really an option for the first couple months, though after 5 months or so(not a parent, wouldn't know) you'd probably be fine.
3. Most people have kids in their twenties, when they don't really have a super stable job or solid means of decent income(or a large savings account). Having kids in your forties or thirties can be unappealing to some people(besides the fact that fertility starts to decline at age around 30.)
So, why should we force young people who want to have kids when they are young and capable to take on debt? Not saying that it should be a year, but even two months would help.
Plus, that doesn't go by the fact that usually people in their twenties have other loans(car, house, student) that they will also be paying.
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I still think you are missing the point. No one is forcing you to take on debt for having kids, you're doing that to yourself by having kids.
That's like saying that you are being forced to take on debt when you by a house because your job doesn't pay you enough for you to afford a house. If you don't have the funds to do something don't do it; rather than doing it then blaming the system when you go into a lifetime of debt because of your own crappy decision.
3. To be honest, if I was a business owner (the person paying your maternal leave) I don't give a **** if you want to have kids in your twenties. Thats money that'd be coming out of the business I am trying to run because you "need" to have kids now, instead of waiting 10 years when you are financially stable. - Why should I, a business owner, have to sacrifice my recourses because you are too impatient to have a kid in 10 years when you can actually afford it?
- Does just the general idea of having a kid when you are 20 years old, financially instable, and most likely mentally immature honestly sound like a good idea to you? Is that the kind of person we want to be parents, people who can't wait to have kids so they do it anyway when they *should* know they can't afford it?
- Are you actually sure most people want to have kids in their twenties, because I have never heard of that, I know this is anecdotal but everyone I have met wants kids in their twenties, you know, when they are out of college and have a career lined up.
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Posted by 5hift
(Post 676427)
Please excuse me if I'm blowing this way outta proportion but are you implying that only the wealthy have the appropriate means to procreate?
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Not at all, while I can see where you would get that idea that is not what I am saying. For one I don't think you need to be upper class to have the recourses to support a child, I think as long as you are around the 60,000/year range you should have enough money to support a kid in most places in the United States (Metropolis like LA, SF, NYC probably not so much). That would put you right in the center of the middle class.
Also a lot of what it comes down to is how financially adept you are, you can be earning a lot less than 60,000, and end up having more left over at the end of the month than someone earning say, 100,000. And people like that who are good with money, even though they don't earn a lot of it are probably going to end up being more fit to be a parent than those who aren't.
I'm not against poor people having kids, I'm against unstable people having kids.
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