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MrSimons 01-16-2014 12:08 AM

Sucks man, I really can't say much since I've never really experienced being bullied, I mean Im pretty tall where I live and no one really ****s with that guy thats a foot taller than them. All I can suggest is not spending too much time looking for friends, If you've had ****ty experiences with people and you aren't comfortable yet being around others dont force yourself into one of those situations (this can go for anything really), just stay chill and friends will find you.

Blueh 01-16-2014 12:20 AM

I used to be highly antisocial during most of my time in middle school. In 8th grade I had an image change, so that really helped and harmed my self esteem in different areas. It helped by making me much more social and for the most part thought positive of myself for the first time, and at the same time I was faced with the issue of conformity. As a result, I still do this today with my own touch, is I would observe the way people sit in their seats. Then I would mimic them, so my posture matches their own. Nowadays, I do the same thing, but I look around the room to see who carries themselves out well and I...challenge them, in lack of a better words lol.

But enough about me, that probably wouldn't help you with social skills all that much. But it may improve your confidence. The secret to long lasting conversations and friendships with others can be found in a quote by the Roman poet, Publius Syrus: "We are interested in others, when they are interested in us." Talk about what interests the other person (theirself), and they'll go on for ages.

iHot 01-16-2014 12:28 AM

I was waiting for the part where you kicked their asses :(

But in a way you did. By not giving up on life as many others do. In a few years you'll be ****ting on their faces I can assure you *thumbs up*

kenthefruit 01-16-2014 12:34 AM

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Posted by Era News (Post 445307)
Yeah



I did


It's my opinion.

Your opinion sucks.

NeoZX 01-16-2014 12:51 AM

I just feel so sorry, and sad for you..

imSupah 01-16-2014 01:00 AM

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Posted by MrSimons (Post 445316)
Sucks man, I really can't say much since I've never really experienced being bullied, I mean Im pretty tall where I live and no one really ****s with that guy thats a foot taller than them. All I can suggest is not spending too much time looking for friends, If you've had ****ty experiences with people and you aren't comfortable yet being around others dont force yourself into one of those situations (this can go for anything really), just stay chill and friends will find you.

Thanks Simons.. I try not too..But it sucks having only a few ones(in RL and on here).

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Posted by Blueh (Post 445320)
I used to be highly antisocial during most of my time in middle school. In 8th grade I had an image change, so that really helped and harmed my self esteem in different areas. It helped by making me much more social and for the most part thought positive of myself for the first time, and at the same time I was faced with the issue of conformity. As a result, I still do this today with my own touch, is I would observe the way people sit in their seats. Then I would mimic them, so my posture matches their own. Nowadays, I do the same thing, but I look around the room to see who carries themselves out well and I...challenge them, in lack of a better words lol.

But enough about me, that probably wouldn't help you with social skills all that much. But it may improve your confidence. The secret to long lasting conversations and friendships with others can be found in a quote by the Roman poet, Publius Syrus: "We are interested in others, when they are interested in us." Talk about what interests the other person (theirself), and they'll go on for ages.

True Blueh true...and maybe I should try as I need a confidence booster and to improve my self-esteem.

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Posted by iHot (Post 445323)
I was waiting for the part where you kicked their asses :(

But in a way you did. By not giving up on life as many others do. In a few years you'll be ****ting on their faces I can assure you *thumbs up*

I tried Hot honestly did..But you see I'm a skinny dude and I hit so weak I was like a Graalian hitting another in a Graal Server...If you don't get it lol, they deal 1 hp which is low damage just like my RL punches...But thanks, everyone said I'm a survivor and I survived through all of this for so long..And that in the long run, I'll be the one in a higher business while they be on the streets or working at McDonalds...but idk about that...

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Posted by Cobalt (Post 445329)
I just feel so sorry, and sad for you..

Sigh...It's ok...Past is the past...but it's full of horrible memories...And thats why I posted the Social Thread in Zone section cause I was trying to meet new people but I decided to post the full story here...

NeoZX 01-16-2014 01:02 AM

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Posted by xSupah* (Post 445334)
Thanks Simons.. I try not too..But it sucks having only a few ones(in RL and on here).



True Blueh true...and maybe I should try as I need a confidence booster and to improve my self-esteem.



I tried Hot honestly did..But you see I'm a skinny dude and I hit so weak I was like a Graalian hitting another in a Graal Server...If you don't get it lol, they deal 1 hp which is low damage just like my RL punches...But thanks, everyone said I'm a survivor and I survived through all of this for so long..And that in the long run, I'll be the one in a higher business while they be on the streets or working at McDonalds...but idk about that...



Sigh...It's ok...Past is the past...but it's full of horrible memories...And thats why I posted the Social Thread in Zone section cause I was trying to meet new people but I decided to post the full story here...

I'll be your friend <3
just don't eat my pancakes.

Lord* 01-16-2014 01:12 AM

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Posted by Blueh (Post 445320)
I used to be highly antisocial during most of my time in middle school. In 8th grade I had an image change, so that really helped and harmed my self esteem in different areas. It helped by making me much more social and for the most part thought positive of myself for the first time, and at the same time I was faced with the issue of conformity. As a result, I still do this today with my own touch, is I would observe the way people sit in their seats. Then I would mimic them, so my posture matches their own. Nowadays, I do the same thing, but I look around the room to see who carries themselves out well and I...challenge them, in lack of a better words lol.

But enough about me, that probably wouldn't help you with social skills all that much. But it may improve your confidence. The secret to long lasting conversations and friendships with others can be found in a quote by the Roman poet, Publius Syrus: "We are interested in others, when they are interested in us." Talk about what interests the other person (theirself), and they'll go on for ages.

This~~^ Probably the only advice i can give you is that the only way for anyone to ever respect you or like you, you have to respect/like yourself first. Once you do that, you will gain confidence. If you are confident in who you are, it really doesn't matter what anyone else says or does. Also nobody wants to mess with someone who is confident about themselves. Blueh had a great point of how when talking to people, talk about what they like. Moral is that you have to believe in yourself before anyone else can.

Steam Wizard 01-16-2014 01:14 AM

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Posted by Era News (Post 445237)
Life's unfair, if you're killing yourself over a bully you're not going to go anywhere in your life anyway and probably drain the economy. Life's unfair- Deal with it.

You, sir, have lost quite a lot of respect. In our world today, yes, many things are unfair, but do we sit around and do nothing about it? Nope, it's natural to want things that other people have, also known as jealousy, because we want things to be as fair as possible. But then sometimes we run into people like you. Why do you think that people should deal with having life be unfair? Maybe it's not because you get jealous, it's because you WANT things to be unfair, and you want to have everything that others don't have. You do realize telling somebody that they aren't going anywhere in life isn't going to help you at all, right? One of the reasons why people kill themselves over bullying is because bullies f**k up peoples minds and restrict them from mentally doing things. YOU are the reason why some people don't go anywhere in life.

HON3Y BADG3R 01-16-2014 01:35 AM

I get what you have been through. I'm crying while I write this. I have been bullied and it is the worst thing. You feel hopeless and like a waste. I used to cry myself to sleep and think about suicide. I hurt me so much that I would hate God. It kills me to write this but I relate to you. I was made fun of, pushed around, never picked on for games, and had someone bend my gold cross. It was awful. I found graal at the time. It was my way of trying out if the world accepted who I am. It took awhile, but they did. I found that comebacks weren't the answer, but laughing at who's insulting you. When I was made fun of at my new school, I would laugh with them. People would ask why I was. I would say because they will be working for me, the nerd, the geek, the loser, the no one. It changed a lot in my life, and I don't regret a single moment.

I'm glad you are doing better. I hope it doesn't happen again. If it does, go through these steps:

1. Laugh at them
2. Remember that everything happens for a reason
3. If they lay even a finger on you, kick their ass

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Posted by Era News (Post 445229)
Just man up. If you get offended by name calling you deserve to be bullied and if someone hits you hit them back or go cry to a teacher.

I can not express this any nicer:

gtfo

NeoZX 01-16-2014 01:36 AM

Anyone that bullies is probably just going through something rough, or they are just born like sick bastards.

Platinum 01-16-2014 02:02 AM

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Posted by Steam Wizard (Post 445346)
You, sir, have lost quite a lot of respect. In our world today, yes, many things are unfair, but do we sit around and do nothing about it? Nope, it's natural to want things that other people have, also known as jealousy, because we want things to be as fair as possible. But then sometimes we run into people like you. Why do you think that people should deal with having life be unfair? Maybe it's not because you get jealous, it's because you WANT things to be unfair, and you want to have everything that others don't have. You do realize telling somebody that they aren't going anywhere in life isn't going to help you at all, right? One of the reasons why people kill themselves over bullying is because bullies f**k up peoples minds and restrict them from mentally doing things. YOU are the reason why some people don't go anywhere in life.

Era News has a point though, (I've never been bullied so feel free to correct me) if someone is prepared to commit suicide and waste their life over a bullying incident they are weak(only word I can think of), which isn't the best kind of personality to have in later life. Yes, they may have been scarred and I understand it must have be traumatising, but they would know that the world is not against them.
Please don't misunderstand, I am fully against bullying but people shouldn't kill themselves over it no matter how extreme it is

Steam Wizard 01-16-2014 02:05 AM

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Posted by Platinum (Post 445370)
Era News has a point though, (I've never been bullied so feel free to correct me) if someone is prepared to commit suicide and waste their life over a bullying incident they are weak, which isn't the best kind of personality to have in later life. Yes, they may have been scarred and I understand it must have be traumatising, but they would know that the world is not against them. Please don't misunderstand, I am fully against bullying but people shouldn't kill themselves over it.

but my point isn't that people who are wanting to commit suicide are weak, because yes, they are, but what i'm trying to say is that it doesn't help when bullies are making it worse by treating them like that, and he also doesn't have to be a total d**k about it because he clearly doesn't know what he's talking about

5hift 01-16-2014 02:05 AM

Whatever you do...

Don't ever let the fact that you've been bullied become an excuse to bully others.

Don't stoop to their level.

Typically bullies bully because they've been bullied and bullying others makes them feel good about being the bully themselves.

imSupah 01-16-2014 02:08 AM

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Posted by Platinum (Post 445370)
Era News has a point though, (I've never been bullied so feel free to correct me) if someone is prepared to commit suicide and waste their life over a bullying incident they are weak(only word I can think of), which isn't the best kind of personality to have in later life. Yes, they may have been scarred and I understand it must have be traumatising, but they would know that the world is not against them. Please don't misunderstand, I am fully against bullying but people shouldn't kill themselves over it.

Thats the thing...He has a point.. He just expressed it the wrong and rude way... When I told my parents about what happened to me and the other kids, they told me I should be happy that I was strong...Kids killing themselves over bullying are weak but for a reason..As Wizard and Badger said, we are scared..We don't know what to do and our only option in our mind when we are bullied were thinking killing ourselves would be a better place. Majority of sucidie notes say they can't handle it no more..They don't know what to do and feel suicide is the easy way out and it's not.


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