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Posted by 19112526518 (Post 649078)

You cannot force someone to like you.

OP never was trying to force someone to like him.

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Posted by Albie (Post 648687)

I was in a situation like this. I didn't know a girl but I really wanted to, we ended up dating.

As weird as it sounds, find out where she usually hangs out and sit around that area. Odds are she and her friends will come and sit near you giving you a free buy into their conversation. Don't anticipate them though, don't look excited when she or her friendship group come. Just slideeee into the conversation.

Do this for a few days then ask for her number or snapchat or something. This will help you get to know each other better and let you become friends (if you're not awkward).
And then it won't be obnoxious for you to walk up to her and start talking as if you were friends.

That's what I did anyway. It worked lol

I pictured this situation in my head, and it seems awkward. So, get to the spot her and her friends usually hangs out. Listen to their conversation and try to slip in? How? Usually when someone is talking in a group of friends, they usually move on to the next subject after what they're saying. So doesn't it look awkward if I just jump in say hi and say stuff about what they were talking about? The whole group of friends would stare at me and it would be weird and awkward. I need a way to properly introduce myself so it wouldn't be weird. ;-;

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Posted by Elk (Post 648682)

So you basically like and would love her even though you dont really know her but only find her pretty and very attractive...

I would like to start out as friends.

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Posted by iHot (Post 648840)

Confidence is more attractive than your actual looks so take his advice ^^and approach her with confidence and you'll make a good lasting impression

Again, how though? I can't just approach her in the middle of her conversation with her friends and be like, "Can we be friends?'

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Posted by Wolfie (Post 649114)

That would be very weird especially if she doesn't know you. Bump into her in the hall sometime and talk try talking to her then. Just try to chat her up in places like that ie. lunch lines, waiting for a bus, waiting for class to start, checking out a book at the library.

You really don't want to come off as weird or uncomfortable for this though, so if this is something important to you I'd recommend getting good at coming onto random people.

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Posted by MrSimons (Post 649127)

I'd recommend getting good at coming onto random people.

Had a little giggle when I saw that, though it's sound advice.

It always go back to confidence, that's how you approach strangers in my mind. Maybe try power posing, if you know what that is. https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_...re?language=en

Try watching that for some ways to look and feel confident.

You can also try asking her for a small favor, as that will make her feel like she values you more(maybe after you've talked to her a little.)
For more on that -> http://www.forbes.com/sites/sap/2011...f-likeability/

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Posted by Areo (Post 649135)

Had a little giggle when I saw that, though it's sound advice.

Didn't mean it like that, just being able to start up a conversation with complete strangers

I mean I can start conversations with guys, but not girls. x.x

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Posted by Wolfie (Post 649152)

I mean I can start conversations with guys, but not girls. x.x

Just try to pretend that they are human when you talk to women.

chloroform and a rag

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Posted by MrSimons (Post 649294)

Just try to pretend that they are human when you talk to women.

I'll try.

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Posted by OG (Post 649298)

chloroform and a rag

No police involvement pls

dont objecticise her, first get to know her and see if you are actually compatible, common interests, if theres even a possibility for sympathy, and dont force all those things and make yourself believe that you have things in common when you actually dont just because you are so affected by her beaty and herself as a whole

know who you are yourself first

You guys are adorable. Just talk like we are normal people it isn't that hard. You won't magically get into a relationship with someone unless you are friends with them in the first place.

Also confidence speaks a lot

say hey bb do you like nuts

Be nice to her, Be confident, Make funny jokes but when things go awkward go somewhere for food like ice cream if she doesn't like ice cream go for pizza, and so on.
I usually do this drop my stuff in front of him/her and ask him/her name, if we're in the same class, and after a day I would ask him/her if we could talk more and learn more about each other, then I take her/him to a ice cream shop, then we eat and make jokes then exchange information.

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Posted by MrSimons (Post 649143)

Didn't mean it like that, just being able to start up a conversation with complete strangers

I know, I just read it wrong at first.

You could always use the advice from drake and josh, compliment her and then walk away