Lonely.
 

I don't know how to express this but I just feel..Lonely. Like I really don't understand how but I just feel alone. I guess its cause I'm so shy to speak to new people in my school and I end up pushing people away because I 1)shy to speak and 2) not enough confidence to try speaking. I just need help. Pretty sure all you Graalians have quite a few friends. Well you looking at one who is quiet, sits by himself at lunch, and sometimes try to speak to new people only to choke on words and end up saying nothing. I just don't know what to do.

Girlfriend needed?

You don't need friends 'in real life'. Internet friends are all you need. Once you realize that, you will be much happier in life.

Dr. 5hift, PhD diagnoses you with Graal-deficiency.

Thing is I'm 17 and never had one like ever. I just don't seem to have the features girls are looking for.

Not true and not helping either.


No...This happens to me IRL even before I knew about Graal.

Dr. 5hift, PhD recommends you try striking a conversation with people who sit around you.

If you hear something that you know or recognize from those around you, try entering the conversation.

That's a good place to start.

In fact, it is very true, and very helpful. You are just stuck in an outdated way of thinking.

It'll just take some time to understand this truth. It becomes much easier to realize this when you leave the madhouse that is 'high school' and enter the 'working' world.

Getting involved with school clubs and sports is also very effective.

As for being able to talk to people, which, unfortunately, is still a necessary skill in life, I disassociate my personality from my actions. 'Act'.

I try my best to understand contexts and emotions based upon my experience watching television and movies, but really, body cues and facial expressions still usually go straight over my head. I still haven't figured that part out yet... but at least I can communicate my ideas to colleagues when necessary.

Dunno how feasible of an option that is for you to be able to talk to others, but it works for me.

Based upon your posts on Graalians, you really have no problem creating the words to share your inner thoughts, you just have trouble with actually 'speaking' it.

Side Note: I've noticed in my experiences, that in 'real life', people have a better opinion of you if you just speak often, regardless of what you are actually saying. 'Quiet' & 'Shy' is interpreted as conceited and stuck-up, and thus breeds contempt towards you.

Lel ur loser irl. But seriously get a gf, don't like how you look? Change. Work out. Brush your teeth, have good hygiene. Actually try to dress nice, have a confident vibe. Bam ur not a ****** anymore.

You're a loser yourself for not reading his entire post.

What sad world has people who only befriend strong, clean, fashionable, non-****** people???

Oh right I forgot...

Just try to be a nice guy and not stress over aesthetics.

Oi... So glad I'm outta high school. This sorta spiel is toxic in my mind. In the 'working' world, people are far more understanding of different life styles.

Just because he feels lonely, doesn't necessarily mean he wants a girlfriend. Around 1% of the US Population is Asexual. They still desire 'friends', but have no need for a 'girl/boyfriend'. (In this case, xSupah may indeed actually want a girlfriend, it just annoys me how that was the first response)

Tare, never did I say I want a girlfriend. Blah I agree with your points but honestly I see so many people in my school talk plans for spring break and how they gonna go out while me do nothing. Like out of 1,400 kids in my school I only got like one friend there..Just one. And he's not even in my same lunch period while many other kids are. And can I try speaking to them with my confidence level? Not even in a million years.

Well you're absolutely right. With that confidence level, you'll never meet the need of human connection. The good news is, is that you can become confident instantly simply by changing your physiology and your amount of certainty. Fixing your posture and standing upright with your shoulders back and walking with a sense of purpose not only will increase your confidence, but it'll boost you in other areas of your life you never would've imagened.

You frighten me with your loneliness, ask Dusty hes the love guru.