The solution is to love everyone—and with caution, not reservation. That is, by simply being kind to people around you from time to time, and asking them calmly to pass you something, or how their day is going. Offer them something—but not for anything in return nor to win their approval, but just as a kind gesture sometimes to break some ice; have boundaries, accept them. There really doesn't have to be anything deeper behind it; just cordial courtesy. Keep things at this level with everyone, regardless of who they are; be honest, speak up for yourself when you need to. Smile. Even if you think you are unattractive or something else, you must rework your thoughts to simply believing you are attractive & okay as you are; it isn't your thoughts so much that will destroy you as it is the anxiety of the negative chatter. It takes a lot of energy in your mind to entertain anxiety in ways that should be used for something more positive; think positive, be positive—no matter what you've heard, been told, or how many people you can find who love to argue, present damning evidence, & bully. Build your faith, and it will work out