Aww didnt wurk((  

Posted by Jester Lapse

don't think that works for 13 year olds @ rexx. lmao

Have you seen how girls that age dress now? They're literally BEGGING for approval nowadays. Hopefully Kayla here doesn't follow that road  

I do my hair and everything but if you mean by dressing like a prostitute then no......  

I think the big problem is your age. At your age (At least for me) everyone needs to be as badass, swaggin, as possible or you will have no friends, it is even hard to make friends that are like you. My advice is to just be pretty chill, brush what others say off, if they bully you try and go along with it, don't let anyone think they are hurting you and they will get bored and stop, it may take some strength and patience, but you can do it.

Once you get older people will start to grow up and you will make friends, you just need to be social, it may seem awkward at first, but trust me you will look like a weirdo if you don't go out and try to make friends. Which may sound mean but it is true. When I got into highschool I assumed everyone would know each other and I'd look like a loser if I went around looking for friends, so I just stayed quiet. Sat alone. For awhile people that I didn't even know would ask me why I was so quiet (Probably wanted to be friends with me since I am so damn sexy.), and I never could think of an answer.

I think what I am trying to say is try to be more outgoing and talkative. Hope I helped. And don't be afraid to ask this community questions, if you present yourself maturely everyone will have no problem helping.  

I've been low before. I used to have no friends. Used to want to kill myself. And if I didn't get through it, I think I might've done it. Feel free to message me ingame or on here if you need a pair of ears to listen. Just search Blueh (Zanza) on Classic and you'll find me.  

Posted by Kayla

I try to gain confidence and try not to be negative. But every time I try to get over it someone just points out one of my flaws and I'm repeating the cycle again.

SHOW THE POWER! USE THE FORCE!  

Try to be friends with other people who look like loners.

I honestly feel comfortable not having many friends at all. Actually, I prefer it. And by not many I mean less than 5 people I occasionally interact with. Though the funny thing is I get like 60+ likes on pictures on Facebook and I don't like any of those people..
Anyways, you are "depressed" that you have no friends? Don't worry so much about what other people think of you. You don't need their approval, the only person that matters is yourself and whatever makes you happy. **** whatever people think of you because it's impossible to meet everyone's approval and expectations.

You're probably just going through a phase but you know, just **** it and do whatever you want.  

Posted by Rexx

Try to be friends with other people who look like loners.

I honestly feel comfortable not having many friends at all. Actually, I prefer it. And by not many I mean less than 5 people I occasionally interact with. Though the funny thing is I get like 60+ likes on pictures on Facebook and I don't like any of those people..
Anyways, you are "depressed" that you have no friends? Don't worry so much about what other people think of you. You don't need their approval, the only person that matters is yourself and whatever makes you happy. **** whatever people think of you because it's impossible to meet everyone's approval and expectations.

You're probably just going through a phase but you know, just **** it and do whatever you want.

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Posted by Jester Lapse

No one is ugly, take that back.

Depression goes around a lot now, I would be willing to bet over 85% of graalians were depressed at one point. The thing that helped me was getting out of my comfort zone and talking to people. Joining activities at school like sports, clubs etc. Great way to gain friends and connections.

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If anyone locks this thread I'm quiting graalians, depression is the most seriois thing I've come across in my life, when I was 14 I was confused and very depressed, but then I found a girl and I found confidence in myself, dude as jester said NO ONE is ugly.

Posted by Kayla

I am third-teen years old and I need some help. I'm in a depressed state and I don't know how to get up from it. I have no friends,I'm shy,ugly and every time I ask for advice I get nothing. I'm serious about all this I know this isn't a website for complaining but since no one in real life would help me I figured I try here.

And as for "you can't go talk to anyone" thing, consult a counciler or even your teacher hell, if you willing to talk to a 23 year old man about your problems message me.  

Posted by Era News

And as for "you can't go talk to anyone" thing, consult a counciler or even your teacher hell, if you willing to talk to a 23 year old man about your problems message me.

Pedo alert  

First of all, you're ugly because you think you are. Try to think things that aren't negative, don't be shy. Everyone are all the same we are all equal as human beings. If you feel sad listen to the songs you like or anything that makes you happy/pumped, try to talk to people, start a conversation, ask them what they like and try to find what you and your partner are in common. Always try to be happy even if you don't feel like it(trust me, it helps me). Ignore the people who are teasing you. They're just assholes that wants attention or acting all "cool and badass". In the future, they'll just be those guys who are poor and ends up in jail and doing stupid things in life. Just try and avoid all the negative things and be happy that you're alive. Be happy for what you are. Don't be someone that isn't you. I hope this helps you and remember, be happy for who you are, for what you are. Life is a great gift. You just don't know it yet.  

Many of you don't seem to really understand what she's going though. You can't just magically "think positive" or "be less shy" then call yourself a whole new person over night. Trust me, it isn't easy. It takes time to adjust and to change. First thing you need to do (and probably the most crucial) is to find a support group. People who care about you, which could be any friends, family members, Graalians maybe? People you know and can trust or just anyone who makes you feel comfortable. The next thing to do is to break your usual cycle. This isn't easy, it's something you usually have to force yourself into doing. But make it your goal to talk to someone at school. Even if it's just a short, casual conversation. Try and and at least talk to two people each day, and when time goes on and you feel more ready. Go for more people. Now, coming from someone who used to be very anorexic and still is mildly self-conscious I'm not going to try and advise you on something I could use some help with myself. But appearance wise what usually makes me feel better about myself is to work out and release all that energy and stress. Not gonna lie, I still am self-conscious but that still really helps me a lot. The most important thing is though, is to enjoy your youth. Have fun! Don't let anyone or anything get in your way. Your happiness is what truly matters  

Dress like a prostitute. It works on me ;)  

I've looked into this deeply. Sometimes, even "exposing yourself" or attempting to socialize and raise your self esteem isn't enough. Working out, getting a job, and talking certainly are many ways that instinctively change your mindset, or the way you look at situations. Having friends or responsibilities gives you confidence because you start to value yourself- the key problem with depression. But sometimes its not that easy, sometimes those things still don't change how you think.

Depression boils down to, at it's most basic level, a way of looking at life in general. You either look at life's challenges as a test evaluating your skills, or you look at life's challenges as an opportunity to grow and better yourself. Respectively, people have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. 99.999% of the time, people that have depression a have a fixed mindset. They view every loss or every problem in life as an example of them being a failure. The goal is for you to change this. You need to view your losses, your problems, your failed goals, as opportunities to grow. You need to love these failures because they are fantastic opportunities that you can and will learn from if you only can change your mindset.

The first step to getting better is believing you can get better. In the book, Mindset, Dweck (the author) explains how to start talking back to your fixed mindset. The fixed mindset says, “What if you fail? You’ll be a failure.” The growth mindset replies, “Most successful people had failures along the way.”

So, in short, the absolute best way you need to follow for fixing your depression is changing how you look at failures. Its absolutely possible to change, you just have a habit of being in a fixed mindset. Every time you think "I can't" or "I'm not", re arrange your thoughts to try and find a new solution. Constantly look for unique and positive ways to learn and grow from life's problems. This is the most important part. Instead of just avoiding the stuff that bugs you, start making plans to fix them. Change those negatives into positives, think "I will". Do not look at what I'm saying as another inspirational concept that everyone throws around when depression is involved. This is your homework, kick depression in the ass and learn to love the failures in life!  

I've been in a very similar situation, all of which unfolds at exactly this age. As you grow older into your teenage years, I find that you become more conscious of your decisions and you start to understand how and why things are happening to you. From reading what you've already said, I do agree you have depression, however the symptoms of depression could also be the ones of anxiety. I went through anxiety almost all my life, it wasn't apparent to me until the ages of 14-15, when I started to be extremely self cautious, started missing school and ultimately hating life.

There are many things you can do about this. I don't know you well enough, or were you live or how your financial situation is, but telling your parents in my opinion should be your first step. Assuming you have loving and caring parents, sit down with both of them and explain how you truly feel. Ask them if there are any therapists you could visit. (I highly recommend therapy). If you are unable to do therapy due to you being uncomfortable, or simply lack the funds, there are still many things you can do to help yourself.

Firstly, do things that make you confident. Are you good at art or music? Practice these types of things daily, or every other day. Becoming more confident doesn't always mean you have to go out and make a million friends, join extra curricular activities at school that you enjoy, because most likely you'll meet someone with common interests. If all of this seems too hard for you to do, this may sound silly, but just stand up straight and smile. Walking with purpose can go a long way.

tl;drbook some therapy sessions, do things that you are good at, stand up straight, do things you enjoy