You're at that age when all you want to do is fit in, so what I'm about to tell you is not going to make sense.

Enough with the pity threads. When you start learning to not give a f about what other people think, your life will be much better.  

Thank you everyone for your answers!

Posted by Reece

Chances are you're not boring, just a bit mature. You share interests with your friends which therefore makes you an interesting person, but you probably see the consequence more to things rather than the things themselves (maybe?). Do you go out/do things with your friends much outside of school? Or would you prefer to stay in? Go out, go ask your friends to do stuff (cinema, shopping, anything).

I don't really do much with my friends outside of school. I play tennis with one of them, and I would say we do things outside of school every 2-4 weeks. Should I organize an activity with a few of the closest friends (4 or 5) or 1 or 2?

Posted by Tyler

I was thinking the same thing.

That's why I lost some of my friends in high school. They were into drugs and doing stupid things. They saw I wasn't into it so eventually they stopped inviting me places and that's that. I was never really much of a social butterfly to begin with because I could never find the right people to hang out with. Anyways, maybe you're just more mature than your friends and they confuse it with you being boredom. I don't really know how to word it, haha.

This might be a reason, I don't know if I'm mature but I'm certainly more mature than at least 3/4 of the girls in my grade. Silly behavior doesn't appeal to me...

Posted by Hadzz

I dont see the problem with not having the same intrests.But if you want to be more sociable ts really just about finding common ground.Could you go more in depth into why they find you boring please?

I'm quiet at school, to put it bluntly I can't be bothered talking (if I had to put it one way, that would be it). I find it difficult to find common ground and when I do try and say things naturally I get worried that there might be a negative reaction. Also, I've been told I don't have much confidence, which might be part of it.

Posted by Kendama

Well don't dress boring. Dress to stand out.

Show off your skills more- guitar, magic tricks, skateboarding, sports, anything really..

Try to say something on edge when walking away from someone. Give them something to think about.

Have good emotion control. People really like someone who gets IN the mood. For example, if you are at a party- it is good to have loose, friendly, social, and even silly emotion. But you don't want to be acting serious or sad or lonely. Another example- If it is a serious situation, do not be silly or immature. You want to be that bold person with beady eyes and a determined facial expression.

Also, carry yourself high. Boring people tend to talk about random topics and be pushovers, or they tend to be very predictable people who just seem "butthurt". It is good to carry your shoulders high and not let anyone push you or your friends around. If a friend of yours was being messed with and you jumped into the middle of it and defended them with determination- that is something that will really intrigue people of both parties.

You don't need many words to be interesting. You just need to stand out and believe in yourself.

Alright, so basically get myself noticed?

Posted by Dusty

Have you tried being not boring? It's like being poor and then deciding to be not poor. I've heard good things about this method.

Do you say this sarcastically or philosophically?  

Posted by GOAT

You're at that age when all you want to do is fit in, so what I'm about to tell you is not going to make sense.

Enough with the pity threads. When you start learning to not give a f about what other people think, your life will be much better.

this is the best advice in the thread but you're ignoring it why

it's so much easier to live life not worrying about how others perceive you. just get a small tight-knit group of friends that you love and love you back and you can stop living life catering to society's expectations  

or find a dakimakura and love it. there's something for everyone  

10/10 would recommend  

Posted by Platinum

Recently I was talking with my friend and in the conversation the topic of opinions on ourselves came up. She told me that people think I'm nice but also boring - how can I fix this?
I'm pretty quiet at school, except when I'm with my friends. Even then though, while I'm more comfortable with talking, I'm not the loudest in the conversation. Also, I try to participate in class discussions but I never seem to find the chance to - they are almost always talking about a topic I don't know much on.
I would appreciate any help or advice that I could be given!
I'm a bit tired, so I might not have enough information here

Don't worry, be happy.  

Well, you're boring.  

Posted by Crono

Well, you're boring.

Tru  

Posted by Talon

this is the best advice in the thread but you're ignoring it why

it's so much easier to live life not worrying about how others perceive you. just get a small tight-knit group of friends that you love and love you back and you can stop living life catering to society's expectations

This ^. Abide by it, mate. I remember my highschool year as a freshmen, tried acting cool to fit in due to the stress of being disliked. But to be honest, just be yourself. When you act yourself then your brain honestly wont give a damn about what people think of you. It's best to have those close groups of friends and not the big groups, because usually the big groups have more drama and **** on you.

Overall, like Reece stated, if they think you're "boring" it's probably just a good pinch of maturity in you.  

Posted by Talon

this is the best advice in the thread but you're ignoring it why

it's so much easier to live life not worrying about how others perceive you. just get a small tight-knit group of friends that you love and love you back and you can stop living life catering to society's expectations

She's ignoring it because she doesn't care about advice, as previously stated this is a pity thread.  

Posted by Distorted

She's ignoring it because she doesn't care about advice, as previously stated this is a pity thread.

Or maybe she ignores it because saying to not cae how people percieve you and then making wild assumptions such as she created the thread to be pitied is contradicitng itself.Probably shouldnt pretend you knows whats best for her when you suggest she shouldnt look for help as it just shows how little experience you have in the matter.However not being self consicous to your current extent could be a goor way to resovle your problems but becoming less conscious is easier said than done.At the end of the day only you can resolve this.  

This REALLY is not a pity thread.... Just the problems all of us highschoolers go through. Ignore the selfricheous comments from talon and dusty..  

platinum im similar but try to make some jokes try leading a conversation

prob being mature

Nvm just dont give a **** bout wut others say bout u be confident and proud of wut u r  

Posted by Hadzz

Or maybe she ignores it because saying to not cae how people percieve you and then making wild assumptions such as she created the thread to be pitied is contradicitng itself.Probably shouldnt pretend you knows whats best for her when you suggest she shouldnt look for help as it just shows how little experience you have in the matter.However not being self consicous to your current extent could be a goor way to resovle your problems but becoming less conscious is easier said than done.At the end of the day only you can resolve this.

pls lrn 2 space after punctuation pls  

Posted by Cookie Xanadu

pls lrn 2 space after punctuation pls

Im not looking for advice on how to present my posts.So dont imply that i need to fix anything on a potentialy good intended short post just to make your leisure the slightest more effortless.